BYU Students are “Soaking” Up Loopholes
The Mormon teen sex act is going viral and in turn, opening eyes to BYU’s Honor Code
October 8, 2021
Content Warning: Sex
As we all know, the TikTok algorithm is catered to the individuals’ experience. I am not sure how this happened, but I’ve ended up on Brigham Young University (BYU) Tiktok. The video that set me on this trail was posted by user @funeralpotatoslut. The video was of “funeralpotatoslut” jumping up and down on a bed. In the bed appears to be two bodies under the covers. The caption: “When your bestie is called to soak in a BYU dorm and you have to jump hump for her.” This video went viral and led to the concept of “soaking” becoming common vocabulary.
For those who do not know, soaking is when someone inserts their penis into their partner’s vagina without thrusting, “marinating” the penis in vaginal fluid without creating any friction. In other words, a penis just chills in a vagina without movement. “No moving, no thrusting, and no orgasms,” as stated by Gary Knauer in the Post. It is something commonly done by Mormon teens expected to remain virgins until marriage. Soaking (or marinating), according to Mormonism, does not count as sex. Thus, for movement, they ask a friend to jump on the bed to create a sex-like movement called “jump humping.”
This concept is not new. One of the earliest mentions of “soaking” was posted to the Newschoolers forum in 2009. The original poster described it as a great bonding experience that still allows Mormons to go to heaven. This led to Urban Dictionary defining the term under the name “dick soak” on October 15 of the same year. Eventually, it was simplified to “soaking” on July 14, 2011. It became a popular topic of interest again after a Barstool Sports video about it was posted in 2019. Barstool Sports went to BYU and asked students if they knew about soaking. Most students heard about or know someone who has done it. Additionally, they asked a sex therapist in Salt Lake City, Utah to define it. The sex therapist, Braxton Dutson, explained soaking through brewing a cup of tea. The teabag represented the “penis,” while the hot water was the “vulva.” The “teabag” is put into the “hot water” and it is left to “steep.”
Braxton Dutson continues on to explain the Chuch of Latter-Day Saints’ message about sex. The Church believes one should stay abstinent until marriage. The Church also believes that the body is a gift from God to be cared for and respected, not to be polluted or abused. According to the modern code, “mormons should abstain from coffee and tea, alcohol, tobacco, and illegal drugs.” The reason for coffee and tea is because the original document warned against drinking any hot beverages, though over time has come to mean only hot beverages containing caffeine. As we all know, caffeine and sex entice teens away from God.
Caffeine and sex are two things banned on BYU’s campus. Brigham Young University is a private university in Utah founded by Mormon religious leader, Brigham Young, and sponsored by The Church of Jesus-Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS). Students who attend BYU are obligated to follow an explicit honor code. This honor code was adopted from the Church Education System (CES) Honor Code which outlines a set of standards by which followers of the LDS church are required to live. In the honor code, there are mentions of sexual relations as well as abstention of alcoholic beverages. BYU’s honor code also mentions the avoidance of profane language, the participation of church services, and the observation of BYU’s dress and grooming standards. The dress and grooming standard expects men and women to always be modest, neat, and clean. For men, clothing is inappropriate when it is sleeveless, revealing, or form fitting. They must be clean-shaven and earrings/other body piercings are not acceptable. For women, clothing is inappropriate when it is sleeveless, staples, backless or revealing. Excessive ear piercings and other body piercings are not acceptable. As shown, there is a very strict gender binary. The honor code only mentions men and women with no room for stretch.
As college students know, rules are usually meant to be broken. Thus, loopholes are commenced. These loopholes include oral sex, anal sex, as well as, the article suggests, soaking. These rules have even inspired a common catchphrase among BYU students: “oral is moral.”
Circling back to soaking, the Church is concerned about the ramifications of these actions. Unfortunately, as expected, these ramifications do not affect men and women the same. The concern is centered in that women can become “unworthy” and “impure” of participating in religious rituals and result in unwanted pregnancy. Additionally, “forgiveness” comes much easier to men who participated in soaking rather than women who would be viewed as unclean.
BYU is soaking up more than just loopholes – they’re soaking up old age gender divisions.
Kris ~ Apr 7, 2024 at 6:07 pm
I say this all the time. Everybody knows what BYU’s rules are and what The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (Mormons) theology about intimacy and sex are. If you don’t want to follow BYU’s rules then don’t go there and do whatever you want. I’m a Mormon and didn’t go to BYU it was totally ok. I lived the Church’s standards as prescribed in the scriptures and the example of Jesus Christ. It was hard but was worth it.
This article totally misrepresents sin and repentance especially as it pertains to man and women. Sin is sin only God will be the final judge. As for being unclean, any sexual activity before marriage and infidelity after marriage makes all the participating parties equally guilty and responsible for their actions both men or women.
This author is an idiot.
John ~ Mar 22, 2024 at 12:07 am
A lot of “Misinformation”. Any sexual act, oral or penetration is sin. Clean heart and mind, the scripture teaches “even the thought is wrong”. Action start in the mind. Come on, be real… soaking is sex, even if you’re not thrusting! That is in the same thought that anal sex is not sex because you can’t get pregnant? RATIONALIZE SIN. Is still sin
Just Matt ~ Mar 20, 2024 at 10:44 am
Complete BS…any penetration counts.
Andy ~ Jan 13, 2024 at 7:21 pm
This really should be removed . It’s quite appaling and a very poor reflection of your university and the author. It’s really quite embarrassing for both
Adrian ~ Nov 30, 2023 at 11:23 am
Trashy journalism at its best! It’s undertones are ignorant & evil, while masked in glib reporting.
Maybe, if you had investigated the Church & values, you would have felt the shame you should have for these blasphemous comments. As a member of the Church, I would be shocked if this was even remotely true but knowing the values taught, if members stray, it means we need to strengthen our testimonies.
The Gospel is true even if we lose our way sometimes; & if we lose our way, through repentance, we can turn our eyes & thoughts to Christ & He will help guide us. This is my humble testimony, in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen
Mark ~ Aug 5, 2023 at 12:43 am
Nonsense
Jen Wiss ~ Jun 27, 2023 at 2:24 pm
This is very informative
Andrea ~ Mar 3, 2023 at 10:01 pm
There is absolutely nothing in this article that is a true belief of any active and practicing member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints! This is a very vulgar and inappropriate representation of what our beliefs are.
Mike ~ Feb 22, 2024 at 8:12 am
Mormonites are such cultists. It’s funny to see how they behave.
david ~ Dec 6, 2022 at 2:56 pm
I’m a member of The church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. This journalism is horrible. Get your facts straight. You don’t even know that LDS and Mormon are the same. You clearly haven’t researched the churches stance on sexual purity. Clearly stating in the report that the Mormon belief says that soaking and other disgusting sexual practices are acceptable. It’s sex there are no loopholes. Touching kissing getting aroused all of this is sex. The people doing these things are not living by the honor code. If they want to participate in such a disgusting lifestyle they can go to another school. This stuff is ridiculous. How can someone be so ignorant and think it’s ok and not sex. One of the dumbest things I’ve heard. It was just oral I didn’t put my penis in her. Seriously you have gone to far of you are saying those things. It’s time to choose another school or make some serious changes. Luckily the majority of the students are good. Unlike what the article suggested. Seriously do better research this article is horrible.
Neo ~ Feb 23, 2024 at 1:50 pm
Calm down david. There’s no reason to advertise to readers what YOU THiNK sex is or might be or could be or what is classified as sex(fyi kissing and/or arousal is not sex). What you’ve done here is complete hypocrisy. Although, should we as regular Americans expect any different? I live in SE Idaho & was raised lds , until one day I realized that I had a mind of my own… that I could readily use for a litany of things ‐such as making my own decisions, for example‐ without having to have a pow-wow with my bishop about such questionable behavior. But let’s get back to the point… calm down david.
Jared ~ Dec 4, 2022 at 8:54 pm
This is the worst article I’ve ever read. Did you do any research at all? Did you make up this article out of thin air? “Soaking” is clearly sex and is against the BYU honor code. If this is happening I don’t know anyone that thinks this is okay.
Raelene ~ Dec 4, 2022 at 5:07 pm
So much wrong with this “article”. Do journalists do research anymore? Lots of info in this is just flat out untrue and other parts are just silly. Do your research before you post.
mr mormon ~ Oct 10, 2021 at 8:41 pm
this is a very excellent take I too am a mormon who enjoys soaking from time to time #plzdontbanmechurchoflds #soakorbroke
Albee ~ Oct 10, 2021 at 10:37 am
ngl I was Legitimately very confused before reading this – part of me wishes I was still living in ignorance, but I’m glad you’re doing the reporting that needs to be done. Investigate journalism at its finest
David ~ Oct 8, 2021 at 12:07 pm The Scarlet Pick
Soaking is a silly joke among BYU students. It’s sex. There is no loophole. I’m a Member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints or as others choose to call us, a Mormon. I don’t know, nor have I ever known, a member of the church that wouldn’t consider this sex.